If you are a parent of a school-aged child, January isn’t really the beginning of your family’s year; it is half-time. Your year began in August as the children started school and all their extra-curricular activities. The question is – what should you do during half-time?
Coaches utilize the half-time break to instruct and encourage their players to finish strong and be successful. They evaluate and make the necessary adjustments. That’s exactly how parents should view the first few weeks in January.
As you reflect on this past year, are there any regrets regarding your parenting or family decisions? Ask yourself the question, “What would I have done differently with my children this first half of the year? What got away from us as a family?”
As you review the first half – and you must – was there too much in your family schedule or was it just not enough of the best stuff? Chances are, it was a little of both; too busy and not making the best use of this year. This January, take full use of the half-time and finish the year strong.
The most important element in a child’s life is his/her personal faith development. It will directly affect each and every decision he/she makes and it will ultimately determine who they will become and how they will spend eternity. Therefore, it is imperative for you, as the parent, to put their spiritual development on the calendar each day.
Some people have developed the habit of waking up early each morning to workout. Since their personal health and wellness are important to them, they make it a priority. Show your family that your #1 priority is their spiritual development. Lead your family each morning as they work out their salvation. Paul challenges us to work out our salvation God has placed in us when we come to Christ (Philippians 2:12). Helping your children work their salvation into their daily lives takes time, but it is extremely practical. Get the family disciplined to eat breakfast together at a table. While the children are eating, take a few minutes to read a passage from the Bible, and then spend the remainder of breakfast discussing what you just read. Finish breakfast with prayer.
At the end of the day, be sure to follow-up with each of your children. Sit on the side of the bed with your children and pray with them before they go to sleep. Ask them what requests are on their hearts. Guide them through their prayer concerns and remind them later of answered prayer.
Every great coach has a vision of victory for their players. As a parent, remember to look at the end of the game. In the years or months to come, when you are dropping your children off on a college campus, what do you want to make sure they know?
I have to say, there are few parents who wish they had spent more time honing the child’s soccer skills. I’ve never actually heard a parent say that they were disappointed that their child went off to college and walked away from soccer. No one has said that college so overwhelmed their child that he/she dropped a sport from their schedule.
Over and over parents have asked me, “What did you do with your children to keep their faith in tact while they were in college?” My response was and is, “Both of my children actually grew their faith while they were away in college because it was a priority in their lives.”
Paul told his “children” at the Philippian church that they did what they needed to do when he was with them. Now, he was challenging them to continue to work Christ into the center of their lives when he wasn’t with them. The same is true for our children when they are away at college and on their own.
This is half-time. Don’t go back out and play the same game during the second half. Make the appropriate adjustments. Go for the win. So, when the day comes for you to drop your child off at college, you’ll be able to say, “I’m glad I did!” rather than “I wish I had!”
Doesn’t it seem that it’s practically impossible to turn on the news, read a paper, or surf the internet without seeing headlines that blare, “We’ve Got Trouble.” I remember vividly the 1960′s American television series 
